Brief recap of my day:
This morning was my first morning back at home. Tried to get up early (5am) and go to the gym, but it did not happen! I went at 7:30am and was pleasantly surprised to find the gym pretty quiet! Which I loved! Did Pilates and lifted weights. Good workout!
Then headed home for some quick work before a 11am meeting. Updated my LinkdIn profile, worked on editing web copy for my one of my new company's, signed up for a 50k trail run on March 7, responded to a few Tweet's and then left for my client. It was great to see the boys (6 & 8). It had been 2 weeks since I have seen them. I made hot chocolate (homemade of course), played some games w/ them and one had a short play date.
This week, I don't have my night client, so I used the time to get some errands done. I went to REI and got myself a head lamp for my night trail runs...going to be fun! Then I had to get a few things for a gift and that is where my story for the day gets interesting....at 8:30pm!
I was at Barnes & Noble & I had my head down looking at books, when I hear a voice say "Ms. Stanley", I looked up and who did I see, but my ex boyfriend & his current girl friend!!! My mind was thinking of other things, so I was NOT expecting this encounter. However, I held my head high and greeted them both w/ smiles. After a few words, he proceeded to brag to me and I was thinking "why are you trying to impress me". Ugh, it was strange to say the least! I wished them a happy new year, paid for my purchase and left.
It got me thinking about relationships and how/why guys feel like they have to impress you when you "run" into each other. I think it is a insecurity that they have. To make themselves feel better they feel the need to put you down or try and make you feel unworthy. If you are weak, you will fall into their trap, if you are smart you will see right through it! I encourage you if you ever run into an ex boy friend/girl friend or anyone that you are an "ex" too, that you remain calm, cool, unmoved and wish them the best. You win, they lose. "They" want to have a grip over you and the only way they do, is if you let what they say get to you. I know it is hard...but be strong! You are better off without that person. Someone told me tonight that "they" are an ex for a reason. That is very true.
Again, this does not have to apply to bf's/gf's. There are a few relationships that I am better not being in. Why allow yourself to be in a toxic relationship? A relationship should be beneficial for each other and build each other up, not tear down. Remember that "they" can not touch you, they can only try to affect you with words, shunning, bragging, ignoring and other tactics used by them.
I have to remind myself of this on a daily basis. I choose to surround myself with positive people. Sure we all have our bad days, but if the person is only there to cut you down, judge you, tell you what you should do with your life, lie to you, etc, you are better off without them. It is hard to see that when you are in a relationship, but once you are out of it, you can see things so much clearer! I promise you that:) I have been there and know the feelings, before and after!
sweet dreams all!
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